Sharing your experience of rejection can help people reflect on uncomfortable and awkward experiences and manage it better next time.
Young men often don't share their experiences of rejection with others before they experience it for themselves the first time. It’s important for all genders to know that rejection is normal and doesn’t reflect your worth.
By showing what you’ve learnt personally – or the best advice you’ve received – you’re helping others know it’s normal, okay and they’re not alone.
Tips for ‘leaving it on good terms’ – how do you care for the person doing the rejecting?
Share your ‘Rule of 3’ tips on self-care – what three things do you do to look after yourself if you’ve been rejected? e.g. talk to a friend or family member, or go for a run…
Share a time when you felt respected for saying no and how that felt.
Everyone gets rejected, regardless of their gender. Make a funny meme to pull apart unhelpful gendered stereotypes and share your point of view.
Stereotypes make it harder to talk to each other, or to our mates, about the potentially uncomfortable stuff when rejection happens – and that’s not okay.
Rework cliqued rejection memes like ‘Bye Felipe’, ‘Denied Encino Man’ and ‘Friendzoned Johnny’ or ‘Worst She Can Say Is No’. You could try replacing the negative image with a positive one to flip the meaning of it
Edit phrases of popular memes counter the stereotypes. We suggest Obi-Wan Kenobi’s ‘Hello There’ or Lord of the Rings ‘One Does Not Simply’.
Experiment with ASMR videos by finding a clip of two people arguing – for example from a reality TV show - and record over the original audio with a ‘healthier’ interaction about rejection!
Tag your content using #CrushedButOkay to show your support for the Foundation's campaign
Check copyright status images if you haven’t used your own. You can find millions of public domain images (with Creative Commons licence) in Openverse
Avoid memes from sites like 4Chan, where often content meaning can be hijacked and harmful content goes viral
If you find any content upsetting or triggering, visit the Foundation's Community Safety page for support services contact information, or talk to a trusted adult.
These suggested activities aim to help young people - especially young men - develop resilient responses to hearing 'no'. Sometimes reactions to rejection & disappointment cross the line and cause real harm. If you or a friend experience harm online, you can get help here: